30 Is Not the New 20

May 26, 2013

When I read through the list of 31 writing prompts I had different reactions. Some looked easy, some intense, some difficult, and some fun. But this is the one I've been looking forward to the most. Share something you've read online & discuss. And it just so happens I've been wanting to share this talk on the blog anyway.

Have you ever heard of TED talks? TED's slogan is ideas worth spreading. There are thousands of talks from amazing people that will literally inspire you to change your life. Instead of browsing YouTube videos try browsing TED talks! 

This talk by Meg Jay, why 30 is not the new 20, is my favorite TED talk I've ever watched. With the transitions Aaron and I are going through right now he watched it with me and we both loved it. She talks about how your 20's are your defining decade. This is the time to take a chance, make a move, and do something meaningful. Don't waste your 20's. You don't have to have your dream job when you're 21, but you should look for a job to help you get that dream job in the future. Make friends for life, date people on purpose. You may not marry the boy you're dating now but eventually you'll marry someone you're dating. Be intentional with your love and with your life. My favorite line from the talk (although really, you should listen to the whole thing!) is this: 30 is not the new 20. So claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're deciding your life right now.

xo Sue


  1. This is fantastic. I am 24 and have been with S for 6 years. I am always told that I need to 'experience more people', 'live in my 20's', 'go out and party' etc. I am quite happy with the person I have been with for 6 years. We have our issues, but that does not make me want to date other people.

    I know that I don't have children etc, but that does not mean I need to be out partying every weekend. I am often told to stop taking it all so seriously. If not now, then when? I am saving for a house deposit and was told to wait until I am older. Why? So when I am older house prices have risen? Sydney is so expensive as it is.

    A bit of a rant there, but basically, I agree with you 100%!!

  2. I haven't been able to listen to this yet - but I can't wait to!
    There are SO many ways that 30's and 20's are WAY different.
    way. different.
    thanks for sharing - gonna check this out as soon as I get the chance ;)

  3. I will definitely give this a go in a bit. Just finished the 22 minute one on Zach who died from cancer. While it made me realize I need to just enjoy life more, I also am totally depressed. What an amazing person he was.

  4. "To achieve great things you need a plan, and not quite enough time."

    SO true. And what an excellent talk. I feel like I've accomplished some, but it definitely has just depressed me all over again career-wise. I totally agree that this decade should be lived more intentionally though, and I think most of the 20-somes that I know would be happier if we'd be raised that way.

  5. Okay this was amazing, thank you so much for sharing it!!

    Sarah @ Life As Always


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